Cemetery Etiquette & Adornment

Maintaining the final resting place of many of our residents is something we do with great care.  And to continue to keep the cemetery in a peaceful setting we asked those visiting to keep the following in mind when visiting and leaving adornments behind.

An annual inspection and cleaning is completed at the cemetery.  This includes the removal of any weathered items or other items that is not in keeping with the safety, dignity and cleanliness of the cemetery.

 

Adornment

Flowers and decorations are permitted at the time of burial but may be removed by the caretaker if they become weathered and objectionable to the general appearance of the cemetery. 

We ask that no fences, nor railings, walls or stone cropings be erected on any lot and that permission must be given by the caretaker to plant trees or shrubs (no flower beds).

 

Etiquette

Cemeteries are a sacred space where people can visit their departed loved ones. Though many people only visit cemeteries during burial services, there are others who regularly go to visit the graves of deceased spouses, parents, siblings, and friends. 

Here are a few tips on how to be as respectful as possible when visiting a cemetery:

• Be Mindful of Children: Having children attend the funeral or burial of a parent or beloved family member is important for understanding death. However, remind them that a cemetery is not a playground and they should not run or climb near or around the graves and tombstones.

• Do Not Make Unnecessary Noise:It is common to pray, converse quietly, cry, or even weep in a cemetery. However, shouting, vulgar language, music, or other loud noises should be avoided as they can interrupt other mourners.

• When Driving, Remain On The Path: Virtually all cemeteries have a path for cars that winds around the grass. Never drive on the grass itself.

• Be Mindful Of Other Ceremonies:If you are visiting the grave of a loved one, you may notice a funeral procession or burial service happening nearby. Do not interrupt the service, walk through the procession, or otherwise interrupt their ceremony in any way.

• Be Respectful: Above everything else, remain respectful of both the living and the dead when visiting a cemetery. A cemetery should be a peaceful place for the deceased to rest and for their families to feel close to them again. Be certain that your presence does not do not do anything to disturb that peace.

Taken from Quincy Memorials